p 45 Complications of worry are: Heart disease, stomach ulcers, diabetes, arthritis...Worry can even cause tooth decay. I know of a patient who had a perfect set of teeth until his wife went into the hospital with a sudden illness. During her three weeks in the hospital he developed nine cavities brought on by worry!
John Milton said: "It is not miserable to be blind, it is only miserable not to be able to endure blindness."
When we stop fighting the inevitable, we release energy which enables us to create a richer life.
When we hate our enemies, we are giving them power over us...Our enemies would dance with joy if only they knew how they were worrying us!
c. 1990 Pocket Books
Thursday, November 30, 2006
Wednesday, November 22, 2006
How to Win Friends and Influence People
The deepest urge in human nature is the desire to be important. It is the reason boys and girls join gangs and commit crimes and why some people become invalids.
Flattery is counterfeit.
The only way on earth to influence people is to talk about what they want and show them how to get it. Before speaking -- ask yourself: How can I make this person WANT to do this?
Dale Carnegie had Tippy, a golden puppy from age 5 until age 10. At 10 years of age, Tippy was killed 10 feet away by lightening. Carnegie: "Tippy's death was the tragedy of my childhood....You never red a book on psychology, Tippy. You didn't need to. You knew by some divine instinct that you can make more friends in two months by becoming genuinely interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get others interested in you."
It isn't what you have or who you are or where you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about it.
Freud was described by a man: "Never had I seen such concentrated attention. There was none of that 'piercing soul' penetrating gaze business. His eyes were mild and genial. His voice was low and kind. His gestures were few. But the attention he gave me, his appreciation of what I said was extraordinary. You've no idea what it meant to be listened to like that."
People who talk only of themselves, think only of themselves.
The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it. Avoid it as you would rattlesnakes and earthquakes. If you argue and contradict, you may achieve a victory sometimes, but it will be an empty victory because you'll never get your opponent's good will.
c. 1990 Pocket Publishers (reissued)
Flattery is counterfeit.
The only way on earth to influence people is to talk about what they want and show them how to get it. Before speaking -- ask yourself: How can I make this person WANT to do this?
Dale Carnegie had Tippy, a golden puppy from age 5 until age 10. At 10 years of age, Tippy was killed 10 feet away by lightening. Carnegie: "Tippy's death was the tragedy of my childhood....You never red a book on psychology, Tippy. You didn't need to. You knew by some divine instinct that you can make more friends in two months by becoming genuinely interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get others interested in you."
It isn't what you have or who you are or where you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about it.
Freud was described by a man: "Never had I seen such concentrated attention. There was none of that 'piercing soul' penetrating gaze business. His eyes were mild and genial. His voice was low and kind. His gestures were few. But the attention he gave me, his appreciation of what I said was extraordinary. You've no idea what it meant to be listened to like that."
People who talk only of themselves, think only of themselves.
The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it. Avoid it as you would rattlesnakes and earthquakes. If you argue and contradict, you may achieve a victory sometimes, but it will be an empty victory because you'll never get your opponent's good will.
c. 1990 Pocket Publishers (reissued)
Tuesday, November 21, 2006
General MacArthur's Credo
Youth is not entirely a time of life -- it is a state of mind. It is not wholly a matter of ripe cheeks, red lips or supple knees. It is a temper of the will, a quality of the imagination, a vigor of the emotions, a freshness of the deep springs of life. It means a temperamental predominance of courage over timidity, of an appetite for adventure over love of ease.
Nobody grows old merely living a number of years. People grow old only by deserting their ideals. Years may wrinkle the skin, but to give up interest wrinkles the soul. Worry, doubt, self-distrust, fear and despair - these are the long, long years that bow the head and turn the growing spirit back to dust.
Whatever your years, there is in every being's heart the love of wonder, the undaunted challenge of events, the unfailing child-like appetite for what next, and the joy and the game of life. You are as young as your faith, as old as your doubt; as young as your self-confidence, as old as your fear, as young as your hope, as old as your despair.
In the central place of every heart there is a recording chamber; so long as it receives messages of beauty, hope, cheer and courage, so long you are young. When the wires are all down and your heart is covered with the snow of pessimism and the ice of cynicism, then, and then only, are you grown old.
Nobody grows old merely living a number of years. People grow old only by deserting their ideals. Years may wrinkle the skin, but to give up interest wrinkles the soul. Worry, doubt, self-distrust, fear and despair - these are the long, long years that bow the head and turn the growing spirit back to dust.
Whatever your years, there is in every being's heart the love of wonder, the undaunted challenge of events, the unfailing child-like appetite for what next, and the joy and the game of life. You are as young as your faith, as old as your doubt; as young as your self-confidence, as old as your fear, as young as your hope, as old as your despair.
In the central place of every heart there is a recording chamber; so long as it receives messages of beauty, hope, cheer and courage, so long you are young. When the wires are all down and your heart is covered with the snow of pessimism and the ice of cynicism, then, and then only, are you grown old.
Gwen
She was sitting in the vinyl chair by the window in the stark hospital. Why she had the bed by the window, I don't know; even though window beds are preferred by most hospital guests. She had been blind from birth and could not appreciate the view. In fact she complained of the January breeze that forced itself in at the corners.
She was tied into her chair -- too weak to hold herself up. She could not walk. She could not breath without oxygen. Her lunch sat on a plastic divided tray in front of her --- cold goulash, diced pears, milk and Milbrook bread with a pat of Land O'Lakes. The goulash was cold; the milk was warm.
She was blind, had a mask over her face providing her the oxygen she needed to survive and no one, but no one was there to help her. Later when I reviewed her medical chart, the dietitian indicated that she had eaten only 5% of her meals.
Hospitals are great at keeping people alive, but once they do that, it's really time to move on!
~Jack
She was tied into her chair -- too weak to hold herself up. She could not walk. She could not breath without oxygen. Her lunch sat on a plastic divided tray in front of her --- cold goulash, diced pears, milk and Milbrook bread with a pat of Land O'Lakes. The goulash was cold; the milk was warm.
She was blind, had a mask over her face providing her the oxygen she needed to survive and no one, but no one was there to help her. Later when I reviewed her medical chart, the dietitian indicated that she had eaten only 5% of her meals.
Hospitals are great at keeping people alive, but once they do that, it's really time to move on!
~Jack
Quotes - November
Tomorrow is the most important thing in life. Comes into us at midnight very clean. It's perfect when it arrives, and it puts itself in our hands. it hopes we've learned something from yesterday. ~ John Wayne
Monday, November 13, 2006
Enchanted Love by Marianne Williamson
p 26 " Say you will, and I will buy my ticket for this ride. It will not be cheap, nor always smooth. But I don't care. I don't care."
p 32 There will be something in your personality which is bound to trigger the unhealed parts of me, and I will trigger yours...but try not to attack or judge me for these wounds I carry. And I will try to do the same for you.
p 35 ...we are drawn to our destiny as if to a magnet, and while monsters can delay us, they have no power to change our destination.
p 60 Your eyes are like street lamps to me. They tell me I am home, this is where I live, I am safe here, I have made it. There is someone waiting here to talk to me and hold me...I want to know everything, and I am rushing now across the grass, to throw open the door, to say "Im home!", to see your eyes, to know tht this is the right address, the right address at last, thank God.
p 66 Nothing superficial heals..
p 107 Two souls genuinely combining spiritual forces generate -- quite literally-- the power of God...if there isn't fire then it isn't love..if it doesn't insist that you move to your next level, if it doesn't take your heart and make it explode in a million pieces only to fall back together again in some moment of enlightened understanding, then you haven't really loved. ...
p 124 If a train doesn't stop at your station, it's simply because it's not your train...(.unfortunately you may not realize) that there's another trainin trying to come toward you, unable to get into your station because a train that doesn't even belong there is being delayed by your intensity.
p 125 Whom we teach, or mother, or help too much, we have a semblance of control over.
We are most attracted to people who will NOT indulge our games.
p 130 Every(one) ..is unconsciously looking for his next rite of passage.
p 135 When the wisdom of the heart replaces the chatter of the mind, the power of love flows forth.
p 149 The key to forgiveness is not to seek the innocence of the beloved but to ASSUME the innocence of the beloved.
p 154 When love isn't in our lives, it's on it's way.
p 158 Only what we are not giving can be lacking in any situation.
p 159 As long as we are setting the agenda for someone else's behavior, then we are seeking to be their jailer, not their lover, and we will not know peace.
p 163 Kindness should be a minimum standard.
p 188 "I thought you would never get here, " I said.
"I know. And that's what took me so long..."
p 201 Running the present through the filter of the past just dooms us to repeat it.
p 261 Love is not something to merely feel. It is something to be chosen, to make a stand for, to lay claim to, to incarnate fully. Otherwise there is a waste on some level of our precious time on earth.
c. 2001 Simon & Schuster
p 32 There will be something in your personality which is bound to trigger the unhealed parts of me, and I will trigger yours...but try not to attack or judge me for these wounds I carry. And I will try to do the same for you.
p 35 ...we are drawn to our destiny as if to a magnet, and while monsters can delay us, they have no power to change our destination.
p 60 Your eyes are like street lamps to me. They tell me I am home, this is where I live, I am safe here, I have made it. There is someone waiting here to talk to me and hold me...I want to know everything, and I am rushing now across the grass, to throw open the door, to say "Im home!", to see your eyes, to know tht this is the right address, the right address at last, thank God.
p 66 Nothing superficial heals..
p 107 Two souls genuinely combining spiritual forces generate -- quite literally-- the power of God...if there isn't fire then it isn't love..if it doesn't insist that you move to your next level, if it doesn't take your heart and make it explode in a million pieces only to fall back together again in some moment of enlightened understanding, then you haven't really loved. ...
p 124 If a train doesn't stop at your station, it's simply because it's not your train...(.unfortunately you may not realize) that there's another trainin trying to come toward you, unable to get into your station because a train that doesn't even belong there is being delayed by your intensity.
p 125 Whom we teach, or mother, or help too much, we have a semblance of control over.
We are most attracted to people who will NOT indulge our games.
p 130 Every(one) ..is unconsciously looking for his next rite of passage.
p 135 When the wisdom of the heart replaces the chatter of the mind, the power of love flows forth.
p 149 The key to forgiveness is not to seek the innocence of the beloved but to ASSUME the innocence of the beloved.
p 154 When love isn't in our lives, it's on it's way.
p 158 Only what we are not giving can be lacking in any situation.
p 159 As long as we are setting the agenda for someone else's behavior, then we are seeking to be their jailer, not their lover, and we will not know peace.
p 163 Kindness should be a minimum standard.
p 188 "I thought you would never get here, " I said.
"I know. And that's what took me so long..."
p 201 Running the present through the filter of the past just dooms us to repeat it.
p 261 Love is not something to merely feel. It is something to be chosen, to make a stand for, to lay claim to, to incarnate fully. Otherwise there is a waste on some level of our precious time on earth.
c. 2001 Simon & Schuster
A Path to Love by Depak Chopra
110 Physical fear contributes to survival; psychological fear can be crippling... Your doubt and mistrust toward someone you love is a mirror of your own belief that fear is necessary... That survival isn't posssible without defenses.
p 111 All of us were imprinted one of two ways: either the world is dangerous with moments of safety, or the world is safe with moments of danger.
p 114 Longfellow said: If a man or woman feels there is a price to pay for being loved, their whole sense of love is damaged. It has become confused as a transaction between winners and losers, in a game of competing needs.
p 116 Ego is founded on fear...the ego craves certainty...the ego prizes its own will above anyone else's..and wants to feel the certainty of right and wrong.
p 121 Projection always hides a feeling you don't want to look at.
p 140 (Life) has a purity that includes both love and sex. There is no division between them except in society's misguided conditioning...such is the promise of intimacy that it can deliver us into a place where experience of the spirit is genuine and undeniable.
p 170 The crucial times to let go are when you feel the strongest urge not to. We all hold tightest when our fear, anger, pride and distrust take over... these forces have no spiritual validity.
...Spirit has a good outcome for any situation if you can open yourself to it.
p 176 There is a law in the unconscious that whatever you avoid will come back, and the more you avoid it, the stronger its return.
p 177 Instead of telling yourself that your emotion is bad, ask it what it has to tell you.
p 184 Whenever you feel yourself having a reaction of judgement, rejection, or resistance, imagine the opposite. Instead of seeing an adversary, view your partner as totally on your side...at the level of spirit your beloved acts only from love, holding your highest good at heart.
... Resistance is like a wall holding back the flow of love...Love is the wave that brings forgiveness, kindness and trust from the level of spirit...
...Resistance is actually born of fear and fear comes from being deeply hurt in the past.
p 186 When you feel weak and frightened, the last thing you want is for someone else to see you that way... and you put on a mask that disguises how very much you want to be loved and understood... You aim your offense against the very person you really hope will love you.
p 189 Letting go is all that spirit needs in order to enter your life.
p 189 Surrender is not achieved until you surrender completely to your beloved. To accomplish this you must relinquish everything that deprevies you of love and nurture everything that comes from love.
p 191 Pain grows out of a state of separation; it is not created by what another person does to us. In a state of unity, the self would provide unconditional love, which means that no betrayal or abandonment could harm us.
p 199 When one is controlling, one of the following is at work in the unconscious: fear of rejection, fear of failure, fear of being wrong, fear of powerlessness, fear of being destroyed.
p 201 All fear is a projection from the past, and as long as these projections continue, you will keep generating fearful situations to accomodate them. What you fear has already occurred-- the threats you see.. are cast by your past...
...Ego is needy; spirit is not. The craving to possess and cling is what smothers love.
p 210 In the light of spirit, you are wholeness and therefore lack for nothing. In the eyes of spirit, you are always enough.
p 225 In spirit, in relationship, you only play. Your purpose is not to (merely) survive, but to express every grain of passion that love arouses in you.
p 270 (lack of passion)..the essential issue is not "I am bored with you" but "I am bored." By taking blame out of the equation, you also remove threat. This is important because you cannot help but fear anyone whom you are mentally attacking.
p 304 Love grows the more you talk about it, think about it and express it.
p 310 Love grows on the basis of giving.
p 311 Forgiveness in the heart comes aboaut when the walls of separation in the mind fail.
p 313 A heart that has learned to trust, can be at rest in the world.
p 325 There is someone who looks after us/ From behind the curtain./ In truth, we are not here,/ This is our shadow. ~Rumi
c. 1998 Three Rivers Press
p 111 All of us were imprinted one of two ways: either the world is dangerous with moments of safety, or the world is safe with moments of danger.
p 114 Longfellow said: If a man or woman feels there is a price to pay for being loved, their whole sense of love is damaged. It has become confused as a transaction between winners and losers, in a game of competing needs.
p 116 Ego is founded on fear...the ego craves certainty...the ego prizes its own will above anyone else's..and wants to feel the certainty of right and wrong.
p 121 Projection always hides a feeling you don't want to look at.
p 140 (Life) has a purity that includes both love and sex. There is no division between them except in society's misguided conditioning...such is the promise of intimacy that it can deliver us into a place where experience of the spirit is genuine and undeniable.
p 170 The crucial times to let go are when you feel the strongest urge not to. We all hold tightest when our fear, anger, pride and distrust take over... these forces have no spiritual validity.
...Spirit has a good outcome for any situation if you can open yourself to it.
p 176 There is a law in the unconscious that whatever you avoid will come back, and the more you avoid it, the stronger its return.
p 177 Instead of telling yourself that your emotion is bad, ask it what it has to tell you.
p 184 Whenever you feel yourself having a reaction of judgement, rejection, or resistance, imagine the opposite. Instead of seeing an adversary, view your partner as totally on your side...at the level of spirit your beloved acts only from love, holding your highest good at heart.
... Resistance is like a wall holding back the flow of love...Love is the wave that brings forgiveness, kindness and trust from the level of spirit...
...Resistance is actually born of fear and fear comes from being deeply hurt in the past.
p 186 When you feel weak and frightened, the last thing you want is for someone else to see you that way... and you put on a mask that disguises how very much you want to be loved and understood... You aim your offense against the very person you really hope will love you.
p 189 Letting go is all that spirit needs in order to enter your life.
p 189 Surrender is not achieved until you surrender completely to your beloved. To accomplish this you must relinquish everything that deprevies you of love and nurture everything that comes from love.
p 191 Pain grows out of a state of separation; it is not created by what another person does to us. In a state of unity, the self would provide unconditional love, which means that no betrayal or abandonment could harm us.
p 199 When one is controlling, one of the following is at work in the unconscious: fear of rejection, fear of failure, fear of being wrong, fear of powerlessness, fear of being destroyed.
p 201 All fear is a projection from the past, and as long as these projections continue, you will keep generating fearful situations to accomodate them. What you fear has already occurred-- the threats you see.. are cast by your past...
...Ego is needy; spirit is not. The craving to possess and cling is what smothers love.
p 210 In the light of spirit, you are wholeness and therefore lack for nothing. In the eyes of spirit, you are always enough.
p 225 In spirit, in relationship, you only play. Your purpose is not to (merely) survive, but to express every grain of passion that love arouses in you.
p 270 (lack of passion)..the essential issue is not "I am bored with you" but "I am bored." By taking blame out of the equation, you also remove threat. This is important because you cannot help but fear anyone whom you are mentally attacking.
p 304 Love grows the more you talk about it, think about it and express it.
p 310 Love grows on the basis of giving.
p 311 Forgiveness in the heart comes aboaut when the walls of separation in the mind fail.
p 313 A heart that has learned to trust, can be at rest in the world.
p 325 There is someone who looks after us/ From behind the curtain./ In truth, we are not here,/ This is our shadow. ~Rumi
c. 1998 Three Rivers Press
Return to Love by Marianne Williamson
A Return to Love by Marianne Williamson
In every relationship, in every moment, we teach either love or fear.
When two people come together in God, the walls that appear to separate us disappear. The beloved doesn't seem to be a mere mortal. They seem for awhile, to be something else, something more. The truth is, they ARE something more. No one is anything less than the perfect Son of God, and when we fall in love, we have an instant when we see the total truth about someone.
They are perfect.
In every relationship, in every moment, we teach either love or fear.
When two people come together in God, the walls that appear to separate us disappear. The beloved doesn't seem to be a mere mortal. They seem for awhile, to be something else, something more. The truth is, they ARE something more. No one is anything less than the perfect Son of God, and when we fall in love, we have an instant when we see the total truth about someone.
They are perfect.
A Course In Love by Joan Gattuso
p 68 Once you meet and know love within your own soul, you will never be afraid of love again.
p 75 Many...go through life with a scorecard. They keep records of who did what, when, how often, how expensively, how appropriately, and to whom. Tallying up every act and gesture in an attempt to ensure that life is always fair just doesn't work. If you must count, count your partner's attributes, not the flaws.
p 77 All that we are is the result of what we have thought. (Dhamma Pada 5th c. BC scripture)
If all day long you are hearing nothing but garbage, at the end of the day your head will be filled with nothing but garbage.
p 80 What we focus on expands...Focus on what you perceive as lacking and that seeming lack grows and grows. Whatever we see is a reflection of our consciousness.
p 126 You have to admit some of the players have given academy award winning performaces. Your function is not to judge them, criticize them, ignore them, or present them with an Oscar. Your function is to forgive them. You can never have a holy relationship in your life when you hold unforgiveness in your heart.
p 157 The minute I heard my first love story, I started looking for you, not knowing how blind I was. Lovers don't finally meet somewhere; they're inside each other all along.
p 166 When we don't like the outer projection of our lives, we are not to shoot the leading man or the bit players. We are to go within and fix the script of our minds.
p 174 Being with my soulmate is not work. Special relationships need work and need it constantly. Holy relationships are not work. They simply ARE. In a holy relationship, each one has looked within and sees no lack. We have healed those places in us tht were buried or saddened. Our being together is joy. We have put the God part of us first, and everything else naturally falls into its perfect place.
p 183 Allow love to be in charge and you will experience being with your soulmate as living together in constant trust that every detail of your lives is already handled... Just show up where you have "agreed" to be and when... everything is always working out exactly as it needs to. God is in charge. Remember, God's plan works, yours doesn't. God's plan always works.
p 206...I accept me because you accept me so much. I feel so grateful because something has developed in me that could not have developed without you.
c 1997 Harper San Francisco
p 75 Many...go through life with a scorecard. They keep records of who did what, when, how often, how expensively, how appropriately, and to whom. Tallying up every act and gesture in an attempt to ensure that life is always fair just doesn't work. If you must count, count your partner's attributes, not the flaws.
p 77 All that we are is the result of what we have thought. (Dhamma Pada 5th c. BC scripture)
If all day long you are hearing nothing but garbage, at the end of the day your head will be filled with nothing but garbage.
p 80 What we focus on expands...Focus on what you perceive as lacking and that seeming lack grows and grows. Whatever we see is a reflection of our consciousness.
p 126 You have to admit some of the players have given academy award winning performaces. Your function is not to judge them, criticize them, ignore them, or present them with an Oscar. Your function is to forgive them. You can never have a holy relationship in your life when you hold unforgiveness in your heart.
p 157 The minute I heard my first love story, I started looking for you, not knowing how blind I was. Lovers don't finally meet somewhere; they're inside each other all along.
p 166 When we don't like the outer projection of our lives, we are not to shoot the leading man or the bit players. We are to go within and fix the script of our minds.
p 174 Being with my soulmate is not work. Special relationships need work and need it constantly. Holy relationships are not work. They simply ARE. In a holy relationship, each one has looked within and sees no lack. We have healed those places in us tht were buried or saddened. Our being together is joy. We have put the God part of us first, and everything else naturally falls into its perfect place.
p 183 Allow love to be in charge and you will experience being with your soulmate as living together in constant trust that every detail of your lives is already handled... Just show up where you have "agreed" to be and when... everything is always working out exactly as it needs to. God is in charge. Remember, God's plan works, yours doesn't. God's plan always works.
p 206...I accept me because you accept me so much. I feel so grateful because something has developed in me that could not have developed without you.
c 1997 Harper San Francisco
Spiritual Quotes
Security comes from knowing that God never changes.
The Lord sometimes takes us into troubled waters not to drown us, but to cleanse us.
God has not promised us a quiet journey, only a safe arrival.
Nothing with God can be accidental. ~Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
Do it now! If you wait for perfect conditions, you will never get anything done. ~Ecclesiastes 11:4 TLB
Teach us to number our days and recognize how few they are; help us to spend them as we should. ~Psalm 90:12 TLB
Your own soul is nourished when you are kind; it is destroyed when you are cruel.
~Proverbs 11:17
Don't demand anything, loosen up and be willing to allow a miracle to happen without any insistence and then everything will come to you that you need.
~Jose Silva The Silva Mind Control Method
We shall become Christians on tht morning when we laugh and sing for the right reasons and when we weep not because we have lost something, but because we were given so much.
Anthony Padovano, Dawn Without Darkness
(taken from the back of a program from a 1979 service at the Nazareth College of Rochester Chapel)
The Lord sometimes takes us into troubled waters not to drown us, but to cleanse us.
God has not promised us a quiet journey, only a safe arrival.
Nothing with God can be accidental. ~Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
Do it now! If you wait for perfect conditions, you will never get anything done. ~Ecclesiastes 11:4 TLB
Teach us to number our days and recognize how few they are; help us to spend them as we should. ~Psalm 90:12 TLB
Your own soul is nourished when you are kind; it is destroyed when you are cruel.
~Proverbs 11:17
Don't demand anything, loosen up and be willing to allow a miracle to happen without any insistence and then everything will come to you that you need.
~Jose Silva The Silva Mind Control Method
We shall become Christians on tht morning when we laugh and sing for the right reasons and when we weep not because we have lost something, but because we were given so much.
Anthony Padovano, Dawn Without Darkness
(taken from the back of a program from a 1979 service at the Nazareth College of Rochester Chapel)
Quotes I
Real difficulties can be overcome, it is only the imaginary ones that are inconquerable. ~Theodore Vail
Some people grumble because roses have thorns. I am thankful that thorns have roses.
~ Unknown
Goals are dreams with deadlines. ~Diana Sharif
Ulcers are what you get from mountain climbing over molehills. ~Unknown
Above all else, guard your affections. For they influence everything else in your life.
Proverbs 4:23 TLB
When one door closes, another opens, but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one that has opened for us. ~Alexander Graham Bell
Character, like sweet herbs, should give off its finest fragrance when pressed. ~ unknown
A man is like a teabag, you only know how strong he is once he's in hot water. ~Salada tea bag
Never report what may hurt another, unless it be a grater hurt to some other to conceal it. ~ William Penn
The true test of character is not how much we know how to do, but how we behave when we don't know what to do. ~John Holz
You've got to do your own growing, no matter how tall your grandfather was. ~Irish Proverb
A gossip is someone with a keen sense of rumor. ~Wally Phillips
Blowing out another person's candle won't make yours any brighter. ~Unknown
Form good habits. They are just as hard to break as bad ones. ~Unknown
Be assured that any worthwhile action will create change and attract support. ~ Philip Marvin
~People must believe in each other and feel it can be done and must be done; in that way they are enormously strong; we must keep up each other's courage. ~Vincent Van Gogh
~You can clutch the past so tightly to yourself that it leaves your arms too full to embrace the present. ~Jan Glidewell
~The guiltless mind cannot suffer.
Unknown~If you want something in the worst way, that's probably how you'll get it.
Unknown~Anything we don't accept in our life will come back to us again and again until we make peace with it.
~Your self worth is far more important than your net worth.~Treat money as a cherished friend instead of pushing it away. You will get more of it!~People want more out of life so they buy and collect more material things when what they really need is more food for their soul.
Understanding oneself is a necessary condition to understanding anyone else.
~Mortimer J. Adler
I now mother my mother when I can no longer mother my daughter who is older than I have ever felt myself to be. ~ Susan Jacobsen
A negative approach results in people feeling as if they are being treated like little children, which encourages them to act that way. ~Marie Mathey
Oh the worst of all tragedies is not to die young but to live until I am 75 and yet not ever truly to have lived. ~Martin Luther King Jr.
Millions long for immortality who don't know what to do with themselves on a rainy Sunday afternoon. ~Susan Ertz
The secret of being miserable is to have the leisure to bother about whether you're happy or not. ~George Bernard Shaw
Nobody has ever measured, even poets, how much the heart can hold. ~ Zelda Fitzgerald
It's not whether you get knocked down. It's whether you get up again. ~Vincent Lombardi
Minds are like parachutes. They function only when they are open. ~Bumper Sticker
A life lived in love will never be dull. ~Leo Buscaglia
When a man points a finger at someone else, he should remember that three of his fingers are pointing at himself. ~Louis Nizer
If we treat people as they are, they will stay as they are. But if we treat them for what they might be, and might become, they will become their better selves. ~G.T. Smith
To behave with dignity is nothing more than to allow others freely to be themselves.
~Sol Chancles
Many of us are taught from an early age to pay far more attention to signals coming from other people than from within. We are encouraged to ignore our own needs and wants and to concentrate on living up to other's expectations. ~Nathaniel Brandon
It is not our tenderness which keeps us warm at night, but our tenderness which makes others want to keep us warm. ~Harold Lyon
Every day I live I am more convinced that the waste of life lies in the love we have not given, the pwers we have not used, the selfish prudence that will risk nothing and which, shirking pain, misses happiness as well. ~Mary Cholmondeley
To live in the hearts we leave behind; is not to die. ~Thomas Campbell
Take your life into your own hands and what happens? A terrible thing! No one to blame.
~Erica Jong
We do not love people so much for the good they have done us, as for the good we have done them. ~Leo Tolstoy
The way to love anything is to realize it might be lost. ~G. K. Chesterton
A life spent in making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent in doing nothing. ~George Bernard Shaw
To deny any aspect of your basic emotions is to deny life itself. ~Barbara Fast (from "Getting Close")
One must desire something to be alive. ~Margaret Deland, American Novelist
Just don’t give up trying to do what you really want to do. Where there is love and inspiration, I don’t think you can go wrong. ~Ella Fitzgerald, Jazz singer
Learning too soon our limitations, we never learn our powers.
~Mignon McLaughlin, Humorist
Some people grumble because roses have thorns. I am thankful that thorns have roses.
~ Unknown
Goals are dreams with deadlines. ~Diana Sharif
Ulcers are what you get from mountain climbing over molehills. ~Unknown
Above all else, guard your affections. For they influence everything else in your life.
Proverbs 4:23 TLB
When one door closes, another opens, but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one that has opened for us. ~Alexander Graham Bell
Character, like sweet herbs, should give off its finest fragrance when pressed. ~ unknown
A man is like a teabag, you only know how strong he is once he's in hot water. ~Salada tea bag
Never report what may hurt another, unless it be a grater hurt to some other to conceal it. ~ William Penn
The true test of character is not how much we know how to do, but how we behave when we don't know what to do. ~John Holz
You've got to do your own growing, no matter how tall your grandfather was. ~Irish Proverb
A gossip is someone with a keen sense of rumor. ~Wally Phillips
Blowing out another person's candle won't make yours any brighter. ~Unknown
Form good habits. They are just as hard to break as bad ones. ~Unknown
Be assured that any worthwhile action will create change and attract support. ~ Philip Marvin
~People must believe in each other and feel it can be done and must be done; in that way they are enormously strong; we must keep up each other's courage. ~Vincent Van Gogh
~You can clutch the past so tightly to yourself that it leaves your arms too full to embrace the present. ~Jan Glidewell
~The guiltless mind cannot suffer.
Unknown~If you want something in the worst way, that's probably how you'll get it.
Unknown~Anything we don't accept in our life will come back to us again and again until we make peace with it.
~Your self worth is far more important than your net worth.~Treat money as a cherished friend instead of pushing it away. You will get more of it!~People want more out of life so they buy and collect more material things when what they really need is more food for their soul.
Understanding oneself is a necessary condition to understanding anyone else.
~Mortimer J. Adler
I now mother my mother when I can no longer mother my daughter who is older than I have ever felt myself to be. ~ Susan Jacobsen
A negative approach results in people feeling as if they are being treated like little children, which encourages them to act that way. ~Marie Mathey
Oh the worst of all tragedies is not to die young but to live until I am 75 and yet not ever truly to have lived. ~Martin Luther King Jr.
Millions long for immortality who don't know what to do with themselves on a rainy Sunday afternoon. ~Susan Ertz
The secret of being miserable is to have the leisure to bother about whether you're happy or not. ~George Bernard Shaw
Nobody has ever measured, even poets, how much the heart can hold. ~ Zelda Fitzgerald
It's not whether you get knocked down. It's whether you get up again. ~Vincent Lombardi
Minds are like parachutes. They function only when they are open. ~Bumper Sticker
A life lived in love will never be dull. ~Leo Buscaglia
When a man points a finger at someone else, he should remember that three of his fingers are pointing at himself. ~Louis Nizer
If we treat people as they are, they will stay as they are. But if we treat them for what they might be, and might become, they will become their better selves. ~G.T. Smith
To behave with dignity is nothing more than to allow others freely to be themselves.
~Sol Chancles
Many of us are taught from an early age to pay far more attention to signals coming from other people than from within. We are encouraged to ignore our own needs and wants and to concentrate on living up to other's expectations. ~Nathaniel Brandon
It is not our tenderness which keeps us warm at night, but our tenderness which makes others want to keep us warm. ~Harold Lyon
Every day I live I am more convinced that the waste of life lies in the love we have not given, the pwers we have not used, the selfish prudence that will risk nothing and which, shirking pain, misses happiness as well. ~Mary Cholmondeley
To live in the hearts we leave behind; is not to die. ~Thomas Campbell
Take your life into your own hands and what happens? A terrible thing! No one to blame.
~Erica Jong
We do not love people so much for the good they have done us, as for the good we have done them. ~Leo Tolstoy
The way to love anything is to realize it might be lost. ~G. K. Chesterton
A life spent in making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent in doing nothing. ~George Bernard Shaw
To deny any aspect of your basic emotions is to deny life itself. ~Barbara Fast (from "Getting Close")
One must desire something to be alive. ~Margaret Deland, American Novelist
Just don’t give up trying to do what you really want to do. Where there is love and inspiration, I don’t think you can go wrong. ~Ella Fitzgerald, Jazz singer
Learning too soon our limitations, we never learn our powers.
~Mignon McLaughlin, Humorist
Coming Apart by Daphne Rose Kingma
Relationships are one of the most important vehicles by which we create our identities and through which we define ourselves. A relationship is a process, not a destination. ...There are only two kinds of relationships -- One is a child in a family, the other is as a grownup with a partner.
p 13 Relationships exist to serve the deepest needs of the individuals in them.
p 19 We are all going about the business of becoming, or trying to become, ourselves.
p 20 We tend to think of childhood and adulthood as two distinctly different episodes of self--We live our lives as adults, for the most part, based on emotional patterns we learned as children.
p 26 Our loving relationships are where we patch, mend and repair the overnight cases of our childhood so we can live in dignity and comfort in adulthood.
p 28 We form relationships to accomplish our developmental tasks, whether or not we are aware of this. And so it follows naturally that relationships end because developmental tasks have been completed.
p 46 "...they had given one another the remarkable experience of giving and receiving exactly what they each needed at the time."
p 82 (when the relationship is over) you have an amazed awareness that you are losing not only a person, but also a history, a way of being, a social context, a sense of identity, a blueprint of your future and a basic definition of yourself.
p 90 "IT'S ALL YOUR FAULT" is wildly inappropriate blaming to deal with an incredible sense of loss.
p 104 Somewhere along the way in the evolution of this parting, there is an event which makes it very clear at the deepest emotional level that the relationship is not EVER going to work. This is the "something snapped" phenomena. The door closes.
p 107 As long as we are still emotionally engaged in the old relationship, we are unavailable for any satisfying relationship which may follow.
p 124 Time is a miracle healer.
p 166 Our ended relationships...challenge us to see how we were lazy last time and what we must do next time.
p 168 In their heart of hearts, people always know when their relationships are ending.
p 169 When relationship becomes constant fighting, the only experience you are sharing is CONFLICT. Whenever it gets to this point, it usually means that the life-giving, nourishing elements of the relationship have been depleted and it has moved into a degenerative phase.
p 170 If the same emotional territory is being gone over time and time again, this means you are probably fighting to avoid the end of your relationship.
p 174 When you are feling bored/frustrated about your life, your partner will serve as refuge. When the relationship itself isn't working, you will find that your significant nourishmnet is coming from other sources.
p 177 What we say to one another and how we say it, the amount and depth of our revelations about ourselves, the spirit in which we say what we say -- is one of the most important means of sustaining emotional closeness.
c. 1991 Borgo Press
p 13 Relationships exist to serve the deepest needs of the individuals in them.
p 19 We are all going about the business of becoming, or trying to become, ourselves.
p 20 We tend to think of childhood and adulthood as two distinctly different episodes of self--We live our lives as adults, for the most part, based on emotional patterns we learned as children.
p 26 Our loving relationships are where we patch, mend and repair the overnight cases of our childhood so we can live in dignity and comfort in adulthood.
p 28 We form relationships to accomplish our developmental tasks, whether or not we are aware of this. And so it follows naturally that relationships end because developmental tasks have been completed.
p 46 "...they had given one another the remarkable experience of giving and receiving exactly what they each needed at the time."
p 82 (when the relationship is over) you have an amazed awareness that you are losing not only a person, but also a history, a way of being, a social context, a sense of identity, a blueprint of your future and a basic definition of yourself.
p 90 "IT'S ALL YOUR FAULT" is wildly inappropriate blaming to deal with an incredible sense of loss.
p 104 Somewhere along the way in the evolution of this parting, there is an event which makes it very clear at the deepest emotional level that the relationship is not EVER going to work. This is the "something snapped" phenomena. The door closes.
p 107 As long as we are still emotionally engaged in the old relationship, we are unavailable for any satisfying relationship which may follow.
p 124 Time is a miracle healer.
p 166 Our ended relationships...challenge us to see how we were lazy last time and what we must do next time.
p 168 In their heart of hearts, people always know when their relationships are ending.
p 169 When relationship becomes constant fighting, the only experience you are sharing is CONFLICT. Whenever it gets to this point, it usually means that the life-giving, nourishing elements of the relationship have been depleted and it has moved into a degenerative phase.
p 170 If the same emotional territory is being gone over time and time again, this means you are probably fighting to avoid the end of your relationship.
p 174 When you are feling bored/frustrated about your life, your partner will serve as refuge. When the relationship itself isn't working, you will find that your significant nourishmnet is coming from other sources.
p 177 What we say to one another and how we say it, the amount and depth of our revelations about ourselves, the spirit in which we say what we say -- is one of the most important means of sustaining emotional closeness.
c. 1991 Borgo Press
There is a River by Thomas Sugrue
p 377
As to whether a soul is developed or retarded during a particular life depends on what the person holds as its ideal, and what it does in its mental and material relationships about that ideal... Know in thyself that there are immutable laws, and the universe about thyself is directed by laws set in motion from the beginning... So as ye condemn, so are ye condemned. As ye forgive, so may ye be forgiven. As ye do unto the least of thy brethren, so ye do it unto thy Maker. These are laws; these are truths; they are unfailing. And because He may often appear slow in meting out results does not alter or change the law. An error, a fault, a failure, must be met. Though the heavens, the earth, may pass away, His word will not pass away. His word is the way, the truth, the light. Each soul must pay to the last jot or tittle.
As to whether a soul is developed or retarded during a particular life depends on what the person holds as its ideal, and what it does in its mental and material relationships about that ideal... Know in thyself that there are immutable laws, and the universe about thyself is directed by laws set in motion from the beginning... So as ye condemn, so are ye condemned. As ye forgive, so may ye be forgiven. As ye do unto the least of thy brethren, so ye do it unto thy Maker. These are laws; these are truths; they are unfailing. And because He may often appear slow in meting out results does not alter or change the law. An error, a fault, a failure, must be met. Though the heavens, the earth, may pass away, His word will not pass away. His word is the way, the truth, the light. Each soul must pay to the last jot or tittle.
The Prayer of Jabez by Bruce Wilkinson
Mr. Jones Goes to Heaven
What if you found out that God had it in mind to send you twenty-three specific blessings today, but you got only one? What do you suppose the reason would be?
There's little fable about a Mr. Jones who dies and goes to heaven. Peter is waiting at the gates to give him a tour. Amid the splendor of golden streets, beautiful mansions, and choirs of angels that Peter shows him, Mr. Jones notices an odd-looking building. He thinks it looks like an enormous warehouse --- it has no windows and only one door. But when he asks to see what's inside, Peter hesitates. "You really don't want to see what's in there" he tells the new arrival.
Why would there be any secrets in heaven? Jones wonders. What incredible surprise could be waiting for me in there? When the official tour is over he's still wondering, so he asks again to see inside the structure.
Finally Peter relents. When the apostle opens the door, Mr. Jones almost knocks him over in his haste to enter. It turns out that the enormous building is filled with row afater row of shelves, floor to ceiling, each stacked neatly with white boxes tied in red ribbons.
"These boxes all have names on them," Mr. Jones muses aloud. Then turning to Peter he asks, "Do I have one?"
"Yes, you do." Peter tries to guide Mr. Jones back outside. "Frankly," Peter says, "If I were you..." but Mr. Jones is already dashing toward the "J" aisle to find his box.
Peter follows, shaking his head. He catches up with Mr. Jones just as he is slipping the red ribbon off his box and popping the lid. Looking inside, Jones has a moment of instant recognition, and he lets out a deep sigh like the ones Peter has heard so many times before.
Because there in Mr. Jones's white box are all the blessings that God wanted to give to him while he was on earth...but Mr. Jones had never asked.
"Ask," promised Jesus, "and it will be given to you (Matthew 7:7). "You do not have because you do not ask," said James (James 4:2). Even though there is no limit to God's goodness, if you didn't ask Him for a blessing yesterday, you didn't get all that you were supposed to have.
...Your Father is delighted to respond generously when His blessing is what you covet most.
The Prayer of Jabez by Bruce Wilinkson
c. 2001 Multnomah Publishers
What if you found out that God had it in mind to send you twenty-three specific blessings today, but you got only one? What do you suppose the reason would be?
There's little fable about a Mr. Jones who dies and goes to heaven. Peter is waiting at the gates to give him a tour. Amid the splendor of golden streets, beautiful mansions, and choirs of angels that Peter shows him, Mr. Jones notices an odd-looking building. He thinks it looks like an enormous warehouse --- it has no windows and only one door. But when he asks to see what's inside, Peter hesitates. "You really don't want to see what's in there" he tells the new arrival.
Why would there be any secrets in heaven? Jones wonders. What incredible surprise could be waiting for me in there? When the official tour is over he's still wondering, so he asks again to see inside the structure.
Finally Peter relents. When the apostle opens the door, Mr. Jones almost knocks him over in his haste to enter. It turns out that the enormous building is filled with row afater row of shelves, floor to ceiling, each stacked neatly with white boxes tied in red ribbons.
"These boxes all have names on them," Mr. Jones muses aloud. Then turning to Peter he asks, "Do I have one?"
"Yes, you do." Peter tries to guide Mr. Jones back outside. "Frankly," Peter says, "If I were you..." but Mr. Jones is already dashing toward the "J" aisle to find his box.
Peter follows, shaking his head. He catches up with Mr. Jones just as he is slipping the red ribbon off his box and popping the lid. Looking inside, Jones has a moment of instant recognition, and he lets out a deep sigh like the ones Peter has heard so many times before.
Because there in Mr. Jones's white box are all the blessings that God wanted to give to him while he was on earth...but Mr. Jones had never asked.
"Ask," promised Jesus, "and it will be given to you (Matthew 7:7). "You do not have because you do not ask," said James (James 4:2). Even though there is no limit to God's goodness, if you didn't ask Him for a blessing yesterday, you didn't get all that you were supposed to have.
...Your Father is delighted to respond generously when His blessing is what you covet most.
The Prayer of Jabez by Bruce Wilinkson
c. 2001 Multnomah Publishers
The Words of Gandhi - Selected by Richard Attenborough
P 13 “I have learnt through bitter experience the one supreme lesson: to conserve my anger, and as heat conserved is transmuted into energy, even so our anger controlled can be transmuted into a power which can move the world.”
P 77 “Do not worry in the least about yourself, leave all worry to God,” – this appears to be the commandment in all religions…. If we cultivate the habit of doing (this) service deliberately, our desire for service will steadily grow stronger, and will make not only for our own happiness but that of the world at large.”
P 78 “God answers prayer in His own way, not ours.”
P 78 “What is faith worth if it is not translated into action?’
P 81 “A bad turn is neutralized by a good’ is a wise saying of daily experience in practice.
P 83 “When I admire the wonder of a sunset or the beauty of the moon, my soul expands in worship of the Creator.”
P 92 “It may be long before the law of love will be recognized in internal affairs. The machineries of governments stand between and hide the hearts of one people from those of another.”
c. 1982 New Market Press
P 77 “Do not worry in the least about yourself, leave all worry to God,” – this appears to be the commandment in all religions…. If we cultivate the habit of doing (this) service deliberately, our desire for service will steadily grow stronger, and will make not only for our own happiness but that of the world at large.”
P 78 “God answers prayer in His own way, not ours.”
P 78 “What is faith worth if it is not translated into action?’
P 81 “A bad turn is neutralized by a good’ is a wise saying of daily experience in practice.
P 83 “When I admire the wonder of a sunset or the beauty of the moon, my soul expands in worship of the Creator.”
P 92 “It may be long before the law of love will be recognized in internal affairs. The machineries of governments stand between and hide the hearts of one people from those of another.”
c. 1982 New Market Press
You Are Contagious
What you are, you emit. You cannot be joyful without spreading your joy. You cannot be sad without spreading your sadness. You cannot be well without spreading your wellness. You cannot be sick without spreading your sickness. You cannot be poor without spreading your poverty. You cannot be prosperous without spreading your prosperity. Whatever you are, you exude to the ends of the Universe. The entire Universe is affected by that which you are. ~Abraham
Channeling Your Higher Self by Edgar Cayce
* The mind has the capability of giving a shape or a pattern to energy. Although this may sound somewhat strange to us, these thought creations or thought forms are very real and continue to exist even after the thought has left conscious awareness....Whenever "attunement" is achieved, a variety of experiences may arise, including extra sensory perception, astral projection, healing and channeling.
* The psychic is OF THE SOUL...The psychic operates through faculties of perception, whether hearing, seeing, feeling, or any portions of the sensory system...Hence ....meaning the expression of the material world of the latent, or hidden sense of the soul and spirit forces, whether maifested from behind, or in and through the material plane.
*The soul has a constant impulse to express itself..
* We can have psychic experiences involving the astral level, in which we attune ourselves to another person's thought form creations which are at that same level.
*Most sensory talents, including the "sixth sense", involve aspects of the soul.
*Psychic abilities...lie dormant or active in every individual, and await only that awakening or arousing, or the development under those environs that make the accentuation of same in the individual....Awakening this dormant talent is not so much a matter of increasing its activity as of increasing our awareness of our use of it...The psychic information we could channel will be affected by how we live our lives and by the type of thoughts we entertain about ourselves and the world. IF we develop sensitivity but live negatively, that sensitivity could turn on us and bite us.
*People who die do not realize for a while what has happaned. Having discarded their flesh bodies, they may be experiencing in their finer physical bodies, yet they continue to try to contact or affect the three-dimentional, material world...Even though they may not have flesh bodies, the creative function of the mind is still operative and thought forms are created. These thought forms can potentially be picked up telepathically by a receiver, just as can be done in more traditional telepathy experiments.
*It is recommended that we seek guidance from the Divine within ourselves rather than from some outside source.
*Everything within the scope of what affects our body, mind and heart -- will develop in us the abilities to be in closer attunement with the Infinite.
*Not even God knows what we will choose; however, through our past choices we have created strong likelihoods, or probabilities, that specific future experiences will come about.
*Mystic is as the spirit, while the psychic is the soul, the occult is the mind.
*Channels vary like radio receivers. While a good radio picks up clear signals from distant places as well as nearby, a cheap receiver picks up a lot of distortion and static and gets only signals nearby. A good channel picks up clearer messages coming from a greater distance -- i.e. from the higher spiritual planes.
*(when seeking a guide/channeler -- ask yourself): Is it helping your spiritual growth or is it just entertaining?
c. 1989 Warner Books (reprint)
* The psychic is OF THE SOUL...The psychic operates through faculties of perception, whether hearing, seeing, feeling, or any portions of the sensory system...Hence ....meaning the expression of the material world of the latent, or hidden sense of the soul and spirit forces, whether maifested from behind, or in and through the material plane.
*The soul has a constant impulse to express itself..
* We can have psychic experiences involving the astral level, in which we attune ourselves to another person's thought form creations which are at that same level.
*Most sensory talents, including the "sixth sense", involve aspects of the soul.
*Psychic abilities...lie dormant or active in every individual, and await only that awakening or arousing, or the development under those environs that make the accentuation of same in the individual....Awakening this dormant talent is not so much a matter of increasing its activity as of increasing our awareness of our use of it...The psychic information we could channel will be affected by how we live our lives and by the type of thoughts we entertain about ourselves and the world. IF we develop sensitivity but live negatively, that sensitivity could turn on us and bite us.
*People who die do not realize for a while what has happaned. Having discarded their flesh bodies, they may be experiencing in their finer physical bodies, yet they continue to try to contact or affect the three-dimentional, material world...Even though they may not have flesh bodies, the creative function of the mind is still operative and thought forms are created. These thought forms can potentially be picked up telepathically by a receiver, just as can be done in more traditional telepathy experiments.
*It is recommended that we seek guidance from the Divine within ourselves rather than from some outside source.
*Everything within the scope of what affects our body, mind and heart -- will develop in us the abilities to be in closer attunement with the Infinite.
*Not even God knows what we will choose; however, through our past choices we have created strong likelihoods, or probabilities, that specific future experiences will come about.
*Mystic is as the spirit, while the psychic is the soul, the occult is the mind.
*Channels vary like radio receivers. While a good radio picks up clear signals from distant places as well as nearby, a cheap receiver picks up a lot of distortion and static and gets only signals nearby. A good channel picks up clearer messages coming from a greater distance -- i.e. from the higher spiritual planes.
*(when seeking a guide/channeler -- ask yourself): Is it helping your spiritual growth or is it just entertaining?
c. 1989 Warner Books (reprint)
Secrets of the Millionaire Mind by T. Harv Eker
This guy is great: Buy this book and check him out at www.themillionairemindbook.com
p 10 WEALTH PRINCIPLE: Your income can grow only to the extent that you do!
...The vast majority of people simply do not have the internal capacity to create and hold on to large amounts of money and the increased challenges that go with more money and success. that, my friends, is the primary reason they don't have much money.
p 13 What you cannot see in this world is far more powerful than anything you can see. You may or may not agree with this statement, but to the extent that you do not apply this principle in your life, you must be suffering. Why? because you are going against the laws of nature, whereby what is under the ground creates what is above the ground, where what is invisible creates what is visible.
p 15 Now hear this: A lack of moeny is never, ever a problem. A lack of money is merely a symptom of what is going on underneath.
...All energy travels in frequencies and vibrations. therefore, each declaration you make carries its own vibrational frequency.
p 32 Money is not the root of the problem; fear is. What's even worse is that fear is not just a problem; it's a habit.
p 56 If victims aren't blaming, you'll often find them justifying or rationalizing their situation by saying something like "Money's not really important." Let me ask you this question: If you said that your husband or your wife, or your boyfriend or your girlfriend, or your partner or your friend, weren't all that important, would any of them be around for long? I don't think so, and neither would money!...No rich people believe that money is not important.
p 57 Try paying your bills with love. Still not sure? then pop on over to the bank and try depositing some love and see what happens.
p 58 ..Law of Attraction (says) "like attracts like", meaning that when you are complaining, you are actually attracting "crap" into your life.
...WEALTH principle: When you are complaining, you become a living, breathing "crap magnet".
..Have you ever noticed that complainers usually have a tough life? it seems that everything that could go wrong does go wrong for them. they say, "Of course I complain -- look how crappy my life is." And now that you know better, you can explain to them, "No, it's BECAUSE you complain that your life is so crappy. Shut up...and don't stand near me!"...Which brings us to another point. you have to make darn sure not to put yourself in the proximity of complainers. if you absolutely have to be nearby, make sure you bring a steel umbrella or the crap meant for them will get you too!
p 59 For the next seven days I challenge you to not complain at all. Not just out loud, but in your head as well. But you have to do it for the full seven days. Why? Because for the first few days, you may still have some "residual crap" coming to you from before. Unfortunately crap doesn't travel at the speed of light, you know, it travels at the speed of crap so it might take a while to clear out.
p 60 Wealth Principle: There is no such thing as a really rich victim!
p 61 It's time to decide. You can be a victim OR you can be rich, but you can't be both. Listen up! Every time, and I mean EVERY time you blame, justify or complain, you are SLITTING YOUR FINANCIAL THROAT...
It's time to take back your power and acknowledge that you create everything that is in your life and everything that is not in it.
p 63 When your intention is to have enough to pay the bills, that's exactly how much you'll get -- just enough to pay the bills and not a dime more....There's a big difference between being comfortable and being rich.
p 67 The universe, which is another way of saying "higher power," is akin to a big mail-order department. it is constantly delievering people, events and things to you. You "order" what you get by sending energetic messages out to the universe based on your predominant beliefs. Again, based on the law of Attraction, the universe will do its best to say yes and support you. But if you have mixed messages in your file, the universe can't understand what you want.
One minute the universe hears that you want to be rich, so it begins sending you opportunities for wealth. But then it hears you say, "Rich people are greedy," so the universe begins to suport you in not having much money. But then you think, "Having a lot of money makes life so much more enjoyable," so the poor universe, dazed and confused, restarts sending you opportunities for more money. The next day you're in an uninspired mood so you think, "Money's not that important." The frustrated universe finally screams "Make up your frickin' mind! I'll get you what you want, just tell me what it is!"
p 69 This is the warrior's way. No excuses, no ifs, no buts, no maybes--and failure is not an option. The warrior's way is simply: "I will be rich or I will die trying."
p 73 Wealth File #4: Rich people think big. poor people think small. "Everything changed the moment I began to think big." I refer you to the law of Income, w hich states, "You will be paid in direct proportion to the value you deliver according to the marketplace."
p 76 The world doesn't need more people playing small. it's time to stop hiding out and start stepping out. it's time to stop needing and start leading. it's time to start sharing your gifts instead of hoarding them or pretending they don't exist. It's time you started playing the game of life in a "big" way.
p 80 Rich people focus on what they want, while poor people focus on what they don't want. Again, the universal law states, "What you focus on expands." Because rich people focus on the opportunities in everything, opportunities abound for them...because poor people focus on the obstacles in everything, obstacles abound for them and their biggest problem is handling all the incredible obstacles they see.
p 92 Resenting the rich is one of the surest ways to stay broke. We are creatures of habit, and to overcome this or any other habit, we need to practice. Instead of resenting rich people, I want you to practice ADMIRING rich people, I want you to practice BLESSING rich people, and I want you to practice LOVING rich people. That way, unconsciously you know that when you become rich, other people will admire you, bless you, and love you instead of resent the heck out of you the way you might do them now.
Bless that which you want. if you see a person with a beautiful home, bless that person and bless that home... The point is, if you resent what people have, in any way, shape or form, you can never have it!
p 97 (people in your life with nonsupportive energy)...I respect myself and my life and i deserve to be as happy and successful as possible. they way I figure it, there are over 6.3 billion people in the world and there's no way I'm going to saddle myself with a downer. Either they move up or I move on!
Again, energy is contagious: either you AFFECT people or you INFECT people. The same holds true the opposite way around; either people affect you or infect you.... "Birds of a feather flock together." Did you know that most people earn within 20 percent of the average income of their closest friends? That's why you'd better watch whom you associate with and choose whom you spend your time with carefully.
p 100 My friends, it's not about "touching" millionairs, it's about deciding that you are just as good and worthy as they are, and then acting like it.
p 107 Wealth Principle: The secret to success is not to try to avoid or get rid of or shrink from your problems; the secret is to grow yourself so that you are bigger than any problem.
p 113 Wealth Principle: If you say you're worthy, you are.
If you say you're not worth, you're not.
Either way you will live into your story.
p 121 Say to yourself, hand on your heart: I AM AN EXCELLENT RECEIVER. I AM OPEN AND WILLING TO RECEIVE MASSIVE AMOUNTS OF MONEY INTO MY LIFE: Touch your head and say.."I have a millionaire mind!"
p 137 Wealth File #13 Rich people focus on their net worth. Poor people focus on their working income.
p 143 Wealth Principle: Where attention goes, energy flows and results show.
p 147 Wealth Principle: Until you show you can handle what you've got, you won't get any more!
p 153 Wealth Principle: Either you control money, or it will control you.
p 167 Wealth Principle: Action is the "bridge" between the inner world and the outer world.
p 169 Wealth Principle: If you are willing to do only what's easy, life will be hard. but if you are willing to do what's hard, life will be easy.
p 171 Wealth Principle: The only time you are actually growing is when you are uncomfortable.
cc. 2005 Harper Collins
p 10 WEALTH PRINCIPLE: Your income can grow only to the extent that you do!
...The vast majority of people simply do not have the internal capacity to create and hold on to large amounts of money and the increased challenges that go with more money and success. that, my friends, is the primary reason they don't have much money.
p 13 What you cannot see in this world is far more powerful than anything you can see. You may or may not agree with this statement, but to the extent that you do not apply this principle in your life, you must be suffering. Why? because you are going against the laws of nature, whereby what is under the ground creates what is above the ground, where what is invisible creates what is visible.
p 15 Now hear this: A lack of moeny is never, ever a problem. A lack of money is merely a symptom of what is going on underneath.
...All energy travels in frequencies and vibrations. therefore, each declaration you make carries its own vibrational frequency.
p 32 Money is not the root of the problem; fear is. What's even worse is that fear is not just a problem; it's a habit.
p 56 If victims aren't blaming, you'll often find them justifying or rationalizing their situation by saying something like "Money's not really important." Let me ask you this question: If you said that your husband or your wife, or your boyfriend or your girlfriend, or your partner or your friend, weren't all that important, would any of them be around for long? I don't think so, and neither would money!...No rich people believe that money is not important.
p 57 Try paying your bills with love. Still not sure? then pop on over to the bank and try depositing some love and see what happens.
p 58 ..Law of Attraction (says) "like attracts like", meaning that when you are complaining, you are actually attracting "crap" into your life.
...WEALTH principle: When you are complaining, you become a living, breathing "crap magnet".
..Have you ever noticed that complainers usually have a tough life? it seems that everything that could go wrong does go wrong for them. they say, "Of course I complain -- look how crappy my life is." And now that you know better, you can explain to them, "No, it's BECAUSE you complain that your life is so crappy. Shut up...and don't stand near me!"...Which brings us to another point. you have to make darn sure not to put yourself in the proximity of complainers. if you absolutely have to be nearby, make sure you bring a steel umbrella or the crap meant for them will get you too!
p 59 For the next seven days I challenge you to not complain at all. Not just out loud, but in your head as well. But you have to do it for the full seven days. Why? Because for the first few days, you may still have some "residual crap" coming to you from before. Unfortunately crap doesn't travel at the speed of light, you know, it travels at the speed of crap so it might take a while to clear out.
p 60 Wealth Principle: There is no such thing as a really rich victim!
p 61 It's time to decide. You can be a victim OR you can be rich, but you can't be both. Listen up! Every time, and I mean EVERY time you blame, justify or complain, you are SLITTING YOUR FINANCIAL THROAT...
It's time to take back your power and acknowledge that you create everything that is in your life and everything that is not in it.
p 63 When your intention is to have enough to pay the bills, that's exactly how much you'll get -- just enough to pay the bills and not a dime more....There's a big difference between being comfortable and being rich.
p 67 The universe, which is another way of saying "higher power," is akin to a big mail-order department. it is constantly delievering people, events and things to you. You "order" what you get by sending energetic messages out to the universe based on your predominant beliefs. Again, based on the law of Attraction, the universe will do its best to say yes and support you. But if you have mixed messages in your file, the universe can't understand what you want.
One minute the universe hears that you want to be rich, so it begins sending you opportunities for wealth. But then it hears you say, "Rich people are greedy," so the universe begins to suport you in not having much money. But then you think, "Having a lot of money makes life so much more enjoyable," so the poor universe, dazed and confused, restarts sending you opportunities for more money. The next day you're in an uninspired mood so you think, "Money's not that important." The frustrated universe finally screams "Make up your frickin' mind! I'll get you what you want, just tell me what it is!"
p 69 This is the warrior's way. No excuses, no ifs, no buts, no maybes--and failure is not an option. The warrior's way is simply: "I will be rich or I will die trying."
p 73 Wealth File #4: Rich people think big. poor people think small. "Everything changed the moment I began to think big." I refer you to the law of Income, w hich states, "You will be paid in direct proportion to the value you deliver according to the marketplace."
p 76 The world doesn't need more people playing small. it's time to stop hiding out and start stepping out. it's time to stop needing and start leading. it's time to start sharing your gifts instead of hoarding them or pretending they don't exist. It's time you started playing the game of life in a "big" way.
p 80 Rich people focus on what they want, while poor people focus on what they don't want. Again, the universal law states, "What you focus on expands." Because rich people focus on the opportunities in everything, opportunities abound for them...because poor people focus on the obstacles in everything, obstacles abound for them and their biggest problem is handling all the incredible obstacles they see.
p 92 Resenting the rich is one of the surest ways to stay broke. We are creatures of habit, and to overcome this or any other habit, we need to practice. Instead of resenting rich people, I want you to practice ADMIRING rich people, I want you to practice BLESSING rich people, and I want you to practice LOVING rich people. That way, unconsciously you know that when you become rich, other people will admire you, bless you, and love you instead of resent the heck out of you the way you might do them now.
Bless that which you want. if you see a person with a beautiful home, bless that person and bless that home... The point is, if you resent what people have, in any way, shape or form, you can never have it!
p 97 (people in your life with nonsupportive energy)...I respect myself and my life and i deserve to be as happy and successful as possible. they way I figure it, there are over 6.3 billion people in the world and there's no way I'm going to saddle myself with a downer. Either they move up or I move on!
Again, energy is contagious: either you AFFECT people or you INFECT people. The same holds true the opposite way around; either people affect you or infect you.... "Birds of a feather flock together." Did you know that most people earn within 20 percent of the average income of their closest friends? That's why you'd better watch whom you associate with and choose whom you spend your time with carefully.
p 100 My friends, it's not about "touching" millionairs, it's about deciding that you are just as good and worthy as they are, and then acting like it.
p 107 Wealth Principle: The secret to success is not to try to avoid or get rid of or shrink from your problems; the secret is to grow yourself so that you are bigger than any problem.
p 113 Wealth Principle: If you say you're worthy, you are.
If you say you're not worth, you're not.
Either way you will live into your story.
p 121 Say to yourself, hand on your heart: I AM AN EXCELLENT RECEIVER. I AM OPEN AND WILLING TO RECEIVE MASSIVE AMOUNTS OF MONEY INTO MY LIFE: Touch your head and say.."I have a millionaire mind!"
p 137 Wealth File #13 Rich people focus on their net worth. Poor people focus on their working income.
p 143 Wealth Principle: Where attention goes, energy flows and results show.
p 147 Wealth Principle: Until you show you can handle what you've got, you won't get any more!
p 153 Wealth Principle: Either you control money, or it will control you.
p 167 Wealth Principle: Action is the "bridge" between the inner world and the outer world.
p 169 Wealth Principle: If you are willing to do only what's easy, life will be hard. but if you are willing to do what's hard, life will be easy.
p 171 Wealth Principle: The only time you are actually growing is when you are uncomfortable.
cc. 2005 Harper Collins
Real Magic by Dr. Wayne Dyer
"When the student is ready the teacher appears."
p 111 All of the people in your life are simply thoughts in your mind....Your relationships are all in how you THINK about the other people of your life. Your experience of all those people is only in your mind...something you FEEL connects you to those people...You are connected by invisible thoughts.
You ...are only a thought to everyone else you encounter in your life...Your relationships are located in your "invisible" self which has no boundaries, no limits...other than how you use your thoughts.
p 192 Your emotions are physical manifestations of your thoughts. The joy you experience is located in your physical body, and the chemicals that are present when you experience elation can be identified and quantified. The same is true of fear, stress, anger, rage, jealousy, depression, phobic reactions and the like. These are all chemical changes that are taking place within you. You manufacture those chemicals in your own quantum pharmacy that begins with your mind. That mind is capable of literally manufacturing from scratch thousands of "drugs" that show up in your body. Need an antidepressant or a tranquilizer? You need not necessarily go to the drugstore. Your mind can create exactly what your body needs.
c. 1993 Harper Torch
p 111 All of the people in your life are simply thoughts in your mind....Your relationships are all in how you THINK about the other people of your life. Your experience of all those people is only in your mind...something you FEEL connects you to those people...You are connected by invisible thoughts.
You ...are only a thought to everyone else you encounter in your life...Your relationships are located in your "invisible" self which has no boundaries, no limits...other than how you use your thoughts.
p 192 Your emotions are physical manifestations of your thoughts. The joy you experience is located in your physical body, and the chemicals that are present when you experience elation can be identified and quantified. The same is true of fear, stress, anger, rage, jealousy, depression, phobic reactions and the like. These are all chemical changes that are taking place within you. You manufacture those chemicals in your own quantum pharmacy that begins with your mind. That mind is capable of literally manufacturing from scratch thousands of "drugs" that show up in your body. Need an antidepressant or a tranquilizer? You need not necessarily go to the drugstore. Your mind can create exactly what your body needs.
c. 1993 Harper Torch
Sunday, November 12, 2006
What LIfe Should Mean to You by Alfred Adler
"Without prayer I should have been a lunatic long ago." Mahatma Gandhi
...So when you are kicked and criticized, remember that it is often done because it gives the kicker a feeling of importance. It often means that you are accomplishing something and are worthy of attention.
Remember that unjust criticism is often a disguised compliment.
Eleanor Roosevelt said: Do what you feel in your heart to be right, for you'll be criticized anyway.
Just LAUGH! You can answer the man who answers you back, but what can you say to the man who just laughs?!
Worrying about insomnia usually causes far more damage than the sleeplessness.
After you have seen your whole edifice of happness topple and crash in ruins around you, it never matters again that a servant forgets to put the doilies under the finger bowl...
I do not regret the hardships I have known, because through them I have touched life at every point. I have lived.
c.1958 Capricorn Books
...So when you are kicked and criticized, remember that it is often done because it gives the kicker a feeling of importance. It often means that you are accomplishing something and are worthy of attention.
Remember that unjust criticism is often a disguised compliment.
Eleanor Roosevelt said: Do what you feel in your heart to be right, for you'll be criticized anyway.
Just LAUGH! You can answer the man who answers you back, but what can you say to the man who just laughs?!
Worrying about insomnia usually causes far more damage than the sleeplessness.
After you have seen your whole edifice of happness topple and crash in ruins around you, it never matters again that a servant forgets to put the doilies under the finger bowl...
I do not regret the hardships I have known, because through them I have touched life at every point. I have lived.
c.1958 Capricorn Books
Love, Hate, Fear, Anger by June Callwood
Fear of the dark is derived from fear of isolation.
p 107 Mourning is also prolonged when guilt is involved. Some adults are inconsolable at the death of their elderly parents because they recognize that their childhood has also died.
...There is no grief which time does not lessen and soften.
p 163 (Eric Fromm) ..Periods of tranquility are vital for emotional growth...You have to stop in order to be able to change direction. Quietness, the experience of stillness, is an important requirement for mental health. Stop the rush and you will stop being a stranger to yourself.
Newcastle Publishing (1964,1971) Doubleday Publishers (2000)
p 107 Mourning is also prolonged when guilt is involved. Some adults are inconsolable at the death of their elderly parents because they recognize that their childhood has also died.
...There is no grief which time does not lessen and soften.
p 163 (Eric Fromm) ..Periods of tranquility are vital for emotional growth...You have to stop in order to be able to change direction. Quietness, the experience of stillness, is an important requirement for mental health. Stop the rush and you will stop being a stranger to yourself.
Newcastle Publishing (1964,1971) Doubleday Publishers (2000)
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